Scorpio's secrets🖤

Why Scorpio is so loveable and why you should be kinder when you talk about her. She's literally misunderstood.

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In honour of Scorpio season, I want to introduce the beautiful but mysterious little sign.

First of all, let’s be honest, I know 99% of you have judged a Scorpio at least once in your life.

DON’T LIE TO ME.

I get it. Scorpio isn’t everyone’s cup of tea but it’s mainly because you don’t know what is actually going on under that iceberg exterior.

I’m not going to gaslight your experience with Scorpios in the past either okay, I’m not here to say that your ex was a saint who was just sooooo misunderstood - absolutely not. Charts are complex and energies are even more so.

I started this series because I wanted to share my thoughts on the beauty in the differences of each zodiac sign. Not simply like ‘Sun sign’ but the energy of the signs. These really are meant to be taken in any way you like, whether you’re a fully fledged Scorpio, you have a lot of planetary placements there or you’re literally just someone who wants to appreciate Scorpio a little more, this one’s for you.

As you read through this series (I will do one on each Zodiac sign) park any of your preconceptions of the energy of a sign for now. If you find yourself thinking “ah yeah. that sounds like them” try to remove that person from your mind and just think of what it is you’re reading about. An energy. Unless of course you’re thinking about someone you love, then by all means, think of them - I like that.

I want to start by saying that if you’re a beginner in Astrology you would be forgiven if you thought Scorpio was a fire sign. I guess because it’s traditional ruler is Mars which again we subconsciously associate with fire. But I think it’s also because Scorpio’s intensity is felt. Like really felt. Usually we would assume intensity is a fiery quality but you know that feeling when you get freezer burn? Or the ice lolly got stuck to your tongue when you were a kid? It’s kind of that. Some are surprised when they discover for the first time that it’s a water sign.

I also tend to think of it as living in multiple states. Ice berg - yes. Boiling water - absolutely. They’re not a shapeshifter like other signs though, I’m looking at you Libra, Pisces, Gemini.. it’s distinct. Like it knows what it is at any given time. It’s okay to change and move into something new.

I actually have no Scorpio placements (how boring), I mean I have Pluto but so do my entire generation so I feel like it’s fair to say that’s not that deep. I don’t have that full connection to it.

My dad however, is a Scorpio and in recent years Astrology has given me a huge insight into understanding the way he thinks and how much he just really wants to be loved.

My dad knows how to wait, he understands the game of economics (which.. I have no idea about) and he will investigate everything to a top level of knowledge. Scorpio has this gift of waiting, staking out, laying low until BAM they pounce and secure what it is they were going for.

Oh and yes, we CLASH. Like really, have us in a room together for ten minutes and we’ve probably had a heated debate about nothing important. He’s an absolute nightmare. But he’s my favourite and I love him all the same.

Little Scorpios often times don’t come into the world in a soft, fluffy environment. Sometimes there’s a death in the family before a Scorpio is born and there’s like a residue of that grief or darkness that sets in, or they feel in some way unwanted or like just another mouth to feed. NOT EVERY Scorpio will have this.. But ask your Scorpio (especially Rising or Moon sign) friends and let them tell you their story. It will be interesting to say the least. The problem with this is that Scorpios actually need soft and fluffy, they need love and affection and warmth just like anyone else (I’m looking at you other water signs, I see you there).

But often they don’t get that feeling from their parents for whatever reason and they start to convince themselves they don’t need it or they confuse lust with love as they grow up.

If you are a parent to a Scorpio please don’t worry, bare with me okay? I’m not slagging any parents off, with the best will in the world - parents don’t get a guidebook and I believe children choose their birth chart before they’re born, but I want to give you context.

Actually a lot of parents feel guilty about any ‘mistakes’ they feel they made and try to make up for it by providing the Scorpio with experiences and gifts or opportunities, but the little Scorpio might not seem very grateful or feel like it even matters. What they really need is love. True love. Love that tells them they are okay as they are, it’s alright to thaw the ice for others once in a while.

Whether they accept that love in - is another story.

The most beautiful thing about Scorpio in my opinion is the transformations they’re meant to have and inspire us to make. I’m not saying that all of them will seem profound to watch, but for the most part they really will be. They have an innate need to change the world in some way but often realise later that it starts from within, not outside themselves.

That Scorpio energy requires you to go down deep, deeper than any others. Some would say that Pisces energy goes the same direction, but personally I would argue that Pisces more seeks that transformation from above rather than from the underworld. It’s so dark and mysterious sometimes that you may not be able to find them while they’re in that transformation, but once they leave it’s like a new dawn. Their super power is to come back from pain with knowledge, then they can help us do the same.

Scorpio is related to the underworld for a reason, some of you can’t yet see its magnetism. Scorpio knows there’s nothing to fear with death, they have witnessed many endings, as have all of us, and although that doesn’t make it immune to that feeling of grief, Scorpio knows that after death (literal or metaphorical) there is a new beginning on the horizon. Which I think is quite a beautiful sentiment actually.

Maybe it’s because as a society we don’t like to go deep, we throw the term ‘shadow work’ around - but let’s be honest, how many people ACTUALLY do shadow work and how many just quote slogans about rising from the ashes having never investigated what those ashes hold within and what was burnt to create them. Scorpio wasn’t made to sit on the surface, Scorpio was born to see beyond.

Now, when we find an unwell Scorpio, there comes a problem. Getting stuck in the dark is really difficult, even if it’s comfortable for them in there - they can hang onto some unhealthy patterns before they’re ready to let go. Coming back up towards the light again is rough and that’s why they need a helping hand and why we need to listen to where they’ve been.

We need to know that on their darkest days, they have risen once again and it’s possible for us to escape too.

Back to my dad, who transformed when he recovered from cancer and not in a like “oh now I’m going to be super healthy” after smoking and eating terrible food for 50 years type of way but in a mindset and spiritual belief kind of way. It was obviously a traumatic experience for everyone, my childhood self included, but for him something really changed, it was like all the things he cared about were no longer as relevant. He changed from someone who was closed off and angry, to someone who appreciated life and told everyone he loved them (even if he has his moments and is still too stubborn to admit when he’s wrong, no one’s perfect alright?). These are the type of transformations that inspire us all.

I learnt from this period that life really is for living, it’s not for sitting back and making money and doing nothing. Going through difficulties and coming out the other side in a really miraculous way is what makes Scorpio so awe inspiring. Once a Scorpio is able to process the pain, they become a better person and encourage us to do the same. Unless we witness someone transform, we feel like we can never do it ourselves - that’s where our little Scorpio comes in.

Scorpio is super intelligent. They’re kind of the definition of work smarter not harder. Sometimes they look like they’re not really doing anything but always seemingly waiting, watching and catching the goal in one hand. Yes, sometimes maybe controlling or manipulating situations in order to get the goals they need.

Always healthy and good? Maybe not.

But a skill? Absolutely.

I like to call them the keeper of secrets. If you are loyal, Scorpio will be too. A default can be to push people away in order to see who really loves them.. which is difficult because sometimes no amount of loving can make them see themselves the way we do. They want us to show our love through actions, not just through words. Those who pass their test however will be with a Scorpio for life. You will find a truly loyal friend in a Scorpio.

Obviously - some need to be able to keep or let go of specific secrets a little better, we want it to be in a healthy way.. but staying clear from mindless gossip is something you really want in a friend.

I love the way they can keep their mouth shut, until just the right time with the right ammunition. We all need to learn not to blurt out other peoples business without any good reason. Just because you gossip - it doesn’t make you interesting, it just makes you untrustworthy. They don’t really tolerate superficial behaviour or small talk. Which is what, on the outside, makes them look as though you really don’t want to mess with them but you’re intrigued at the same time.

If you give Scorpio a chance they will keep your secrets until the day they die. They’re not afraid of the difficult, the dark or the ugly. They’re accepting of it. Scorpio wants you to be vulnerable and honest, it wants you to say these are my fears, here is my trauma and here’s how I worked through them.

Something that devastates me is that often - people don’t listen to Scorpio. Which is odd because they hold a wealth of knowledge that barely anyone else can grasp. Things that are etherial or taboo or ugly to look at - they’ve seen it and they understand it. They want people to SEE them. Like really see them and not turn away from their darker parts.

I wish we listened more to the wisdom there is in the bottom of the iceberg they portray. It may seem like they’re being secretive and withholding knowledge from you but really they’re just terrified you’re going to reject them. The intuition they have is often laughed at when it’s shared with the world, so Scorpio doesn’t share. Instead, they learn to keep their thoughts to themself.

They must learn however, to share their ideas with the world. Only then will Scorpio truly understand they are loved for who they are.

If any Scorpios are reading this I want to ask you to share your thoughts with me, I love the dark, the unknown and I too am not afraid of your secrets. I want to listen to you. You are fascinating and I will not reject you for your weird and wonderful epiphanies.

Scorpios, if you let them, can charm the hell out of you.

The sexual magnetism they have is second to none. They are powerful and strong and there’s a feeling of being drawn to them without any good reason. Look at a Scorpio’s eyes, usually they’re mesmerising. There’s something they have that means they will never go unnoticed and that mysterious kind of aura is impressive.

But there is one issue -

It’s easy for Scorpios to confuse sex with love.

A Scorpio I hold very close to my heart came back from the depths of addiction and had to learn to love. Seeking out sex as validation or wanting lovers who she knew wouldn’t love her back is part of her cross to bear. There’s so many feelings under the surface, they have to come out somehow for the good or the bad.

I tell you these stories not to say that Scorpios have it worse than anyone else or there’s an excuse for any unacceptable behaviour (also we all make choices about who we surround ourselves with), but just to let you know that when you witness a Scorpio going through their trials and tribulations - wait until you watch them rise again. As long as they learn the tools, they are formidable warriors. It was important for my friend to understand that intense connections are necessary but it’s important for her to be herself because to risk being rejected for who you are is the path to real love. Something a Scorpio truly wants.

Planets in Scorpio also pick up on this energy. Venus in Scorpio is always a difficult one. I LOVE how sensual and sexy and mesmerising it is, but there’s a darker undercurrent too. As we spoke about before.. the Scorpio child feeling unwanted can turn into a Scorpio adult who feels comfortable being unwanted and will chase that feeling no matter what. If you are a Venus in Scorpio please understand that being unwanted isn’t really what you want, it might be comfortable, but it isn’t your purpose. You are wanted. You are sought after. It’s not easy but you deserve love not just love affairs. If you know a Venus in Scorpio please remind them they’re worth more than others who run from them, love doesn’t have to be unsexy. Personally I think it’s sexier but that’s just me.

Scorpios feel immense empathy. They feel so deeply that they can’t contain it. Once that iceberg thaws, we have a whole flood on our hands and if you’ve ever tried to contain a flood you’ll know - it’s almost impossible. That’s what they deal with every day. All we can do is make tiny breathing holes in the side of the iceberg so they can share their emotions with us without them all coming out at once.

The thing is, they never let their emotions stop them. It’s almost as though their emotions empower them to go after whatever it is they want. They might not seem like it on the outside but all that inner feeling is pushing them to be better.

Anyway, where I’ve been going with this is really to let you know that even though Scorpios have quite the stereotype, they’re way more than just ‘being spiteful’. In fact when people say that to describe Scorpio I disagree with them entirely. I especially don’t want to hear the word ‘narcissist’ associated with Scorpio. Unless someone is diagnosed along with the criteria in the DSM-5 - I don’t want to hear it. We throw around these accusations and words that not only divide us but actually insult psychology and it’s ridiculous so.. yeah.

And if you’re still reading this, why not go and do some shadow work (or a therapy sesh).

Take a look deep inside yourself and search for a level of transformation that is bigger than you imagine.

Perhaps your frustration with a Scorpios patience is a symptom of your need to take pause. Like, I don’t want you to be annoyed with yourself here, but it’s a good time to have a little look at what’s missing and where you don’t give work enough time to pay off. I know it’s difficult to stay with something and get it done - like I said, I’m even shocked that I bothered to stay here writing this. I’m terrible for starting and not finishing. But I never get that pay off! I get it now, staying power is the key!

What do you need to have more patience around? Where are you missing out on the art of transformation when you give up in the middle of it?

Oh and are you a gossip?

Because listen. I get it. Gossiping makes you feel part of something right? But where does that actually get you? It’s way more beneficial to keep things to yourself until you know the full facts, or to keep that idea in your mind and work on it before blurting it out to the world and having it stolen by someone who had more resources than you. Like sometimes, silence wins.

Sometimes saying nothing is the most powerful thing you can do.

Where do you spend time beating around the bush instead of actually getting to the point? Where do you fill conversations with superficial small talk or gossip? It’s important to ask ourselves these questions because although some of us like to be ‘nice’ or feel ‘a part of something’ is it worth sacrificing who we really are? I don’t think so, even if it’s painful to dig down deep - it will show us who is willing to hear us no matter what.

Next time you meet a Scorpio, invite them to open up. Listen to their stories, what they’ve been through. Have compassion for the times they weren’t allowed to share their feelings or they were laughed at and made to feel stupid.

And please. If they’re your good friend - don’t encourage them into relationships that aren’t good for them, they might not listen to you anyway because it’s pretty difficult to get them to do things they don’t want to. But please. Don’t encourage it. The sex might be great but is it all they want? Probably not. (I mean if it is all you’re looking for - go for it, I LOVE THAT FOR YOU).

And if you ARE a Scorpio. Listen, you don’t have to be all dark and mysterious.

It’s okay to share your feelings with us and it’s okay for you to say when you have a great idea! We want to know, also we probably aren’t as intelligent as you so would be great to get your help. Relationships don’t have to only be about lust, you are so loveable. You have so much to give and so much loyalty, anyone would be lucky to have you.

However, when you take your frustration out on us it can be really tough, we never really know when you’re going to snap but if you just share piece by piece what is bothering you, we can all come to a consensus. Solutions are available. You don’t have to let your feelings get too much that you blow up at what seems like the smallest things. Let’s talk it out. Not everything needs to be dealt with alone.

But I also want to say, thank you for keeping my secrets. Thank you for teaching me to play the long game and to not be afraid of the dark. Thank you for guiding me into the underworld and back out again.

Your bravery is what helps all of us to venture to those forgotten places too. Also, I want you to know - you’re so loved. Really. There are people out there who love you purely and truly and if you haven’t met them yet, leave your cave and go find them.

If you don’t, you’re depriving us of your amazing sense of humour. Please don’t do that.. I mean, maybe some people don’t like your darker humour but I do oops.

If we were all able to look into the dark like you, maybe we would appreciate the light much more.

With all my love and admiration.

Catherine

Two Optimystics x

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